Fandoms can be toxic as hell. I am ARMY. For those of you who don’t know, that is what BTS calls their fan base. I had heard about the toxicity before I became a fan of BTS, but holy crap. There is a part of ARMY that is toxic as hell! From using AI to pretend to be their girlfriends, to literally attempting to break into Jungkook’s house. I feel sorry for BTS that they have this pressure to maintain a certain image. While there are those of us who feel they should be able to date openly, there are toxic ARMY that somehow feel they have priority over their personal lives. It makes me sad for BTS. They’re in their 30s, or creeping up on it. They should be allowed to live life.


I am jealous of my husband’s weight loss. Y’all. He worked hard. I’m not trying to take away from his accomplishment. I’m proud of him. That doesn’t change the fact that deep inside, I’m jealous that he was able to lose close to 100 lbs. I’ve tried and tried and diabetes has kept me at the same weight. I should be glad that I don’t continue to gain. For those of you who don’t know, insulin tends to make you gain weight and makes it damn near impossible to lose weight.


I’m beginning to have career burnout. I think we all experience it in our lifetime. I don’t know how to respond to mine just yet. Do I look for a different job in an entirely different career field? Do I suck it up and hope it passes? I have to think about my age. I am at that age where if I am to change careers, it has to be now. I’m not necessarily unhappy with where I am as much as I am unhappy doing what I do. I love my coworkers. I love the vibe. I even love my boss. But, I am not sure paralegal work is fulfilling me right now. 17 years is a long time to do something.

3 responses to “Random Thoughts: Three Things I Learned This Year”

  1. I can totally understand all of these! So many anime fandoms are super aggressive. Even if I love the same series they do, I just can’t be so snappish over it.
    Last year my brother stopped drinking soda, and he lost 20 pounds. I was so annoyed with him for like a whole month. For me I have to constantly count calories, and carbs, and cholesterol, and balance vitamins and nutrition making sure I the right ratios of macros. And that doesn’t even get into the exercise schedule. And I have to do all that just to keep my weight in check, not even to lose weight. And all he had to do is stop drinking soda. I felt so cheated.
    Yeah, career burn out is not fun. I had that a few years ago. I used to work for the public library, and the pay was great, my coworkers were fine, and my evil boss had finally retired and been replaced with someone really nice, but I just didn’t care anymore. I dreaded going to work every single day. I just felt so tired. Finally one day I had a reality check ,and my brother said that I should just quit. I could find a different job, the money wasn’t worth me wasting my life. And he was right. Now, I don’t have the cushy benefits of a city job, or the pay, or all the holidays off. Because I do contract tech work, I don’t even have stable income. But I am so much happier. I get to spend my time on stuff I actually care about. You only get one life. You can earn back lost money, you can’t earn back lost time.

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    1. That’s solid advice. Thanks!

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  2. Being an Army ,it’s really frustrating to hear that some Armies are so toxic !

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