I’ve spent some time thinking about this particular prompt that a friend gave me to try. At first, I was hesitant, but I think I want to try to put my thoughts to paper, if you will.
Love is such a complicated emotion. Each person has their own definition of love, so it is hard to completely express how loving someone and keeping someone are different. But, I will do my best and try.
Loving someone. I think loving someone is encompassing the whole package. There is an undying respect for each other. Loving someone is wanting to see them grow and thrive. Loving someone means having pride in your significant other’s accomplishments as if they were your own. I think, more than anything, loving someone means to care about your significant other’s well-being and health. You ask all the right questions.
- What do you need from me to succeed?
- What do you need from me to feel loved?
- What can we do together to strengthen our relationship?
- Can you share every detail of yourself? I want to know everything.
- What can I do to help you navigate your health issues?
- How can I help you?
Keeping someone. Keeping someone is quite the opposite. The keeper’s actions revolve around fear. Specifically, the fear of the unknown. Keeping someone emotes selfish actions and thoughts. Someone that is kept often feels suffocated rather than liberated. Smothered instead of growing. The questions the keeper asks are wholly centered around the keeper’s comfort and stability at the cost of their kept person. A keeper is threatened by any change to the status quo. They’re often not as supportive as they could be choosing to remain silent.
The difference. Long story short, loving someone is selfless and keeping someone is selfish.
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